18 Psychological Tricks That Can Help You Get What You Need

Do you know what you should do in order to increase your chances of getting a job or get your child to eat vegetables? Or, how do you win someone’s trust if you disagree with them about something? You don’t need any advanced techniques to achieve all this — just memorize these simple tips.

Bright Side is convinced that using psychological tricks correctly can make you look more attractive to others and will allow you to achieve your goals.

  

• If your child won’t eat vegetables, try letting them choose. Let’s say you want them to eat their cauliflower. Give them a choice — eat 2 pieces or 5 pieces. Obviously, the child will choose the lesser evil, but maybe they will actually end up enjoying the meal.

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• If you want to give a person a piece of advice that they will take seriously, make sure you have someone trustworthy on your side. Tell them that your grandmother or father gave you a similar piece of advice. People trust parents on a subconscious level and this endorsement will make your words seem more powerful.

• If you want to ask a person for something, try to find a moment when this person is tired: for example, if you want to ask your boss for a day off, you should try doing it at the end of the day. A person who wants to deal with these questions faster is more likely to give you what you need.

• Body and mind are connected. Swedish body language expert Henrik Fexeus believes that you can make yourself experience certain emotions. For example, if you need to become angry, try frowning or clench your teeth and focus on something for 10 seconds — soon, you will feel that you are actually angry.
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• This tip might seem trivial to you, but don’t neglect it. Before a job interview, pay a lot of attention to your appearance. It is scientifically proven that people who are more physically attractive are believed to be more intelligent.

• If you have an annoying song stuck in your head, try to remember the last lines of the song. According to the Zeigarnik effect, people forget finished tasks much faster than unfinished ones.

• In order to get a person to like you, especially during an argument, say these phrases in your mind during a conversation: “I value your opinion even if I disagree with you.” and “I like you.”

• Phrases like, “I think,” “It seems to me,” “In my opinion,” and others like this make you look like an insecure person. So it’s best if you don’t use them in a conversation or in an argument.

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• An extreme date is the best start to a romantic story. If you are going on a date and want your partner to like you, you should choose a place that will make them feel a rush of adrenaline. For example, a rollercoaster, a quest room, or a horror movie.

• If you need to understand something difficult, try to explain it to someone else: during the “explanation” you are more likely to realize something you did not understand before.

• Even if you know what someone is talking to you about, don’t interrupt them with the phrase “I know that.” Listen to the whole story. This will help you make a good impression and this person is more likely to like you.

• Everyone knows that in order to get something big, you need to start small. For example, if you want to ask a friend for a big favor, you should ask them for a small one first. But this trick also works the other way around. If you want to ask someone to lend you money, and you need $50, ask for $200. The person is very likely to refuse to give you the larger amount of money, but they will feel uncomfortable and will give you the amount you actually need.

• Do you remember Tom Sawyer who was painting the fence? If you don’t want to do a boring job, you should pretend that you are doing something incredibly interesting and that way you’re more likely to find someone to do it for you.

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• Mirroring is a great trick, but do not overuse it. Try to do it so that other people don’t notice it. Otherwise, you will only make people feel irritated.

• If you did someone a favor and they are grateful, don’t say “No problem,” say something like, “Of course, friends are supposed to help each other.” In the future, if you ask this person for a favor, they are more likely to help you.

• Use nouns instead of verbs when speaking. Research has proven that using nouns increases your chances of convincing a person of something. For example, instead of saying, “Do you want to save several animals?”, you should say “Do you want to become the savior of several animals?”

• If you have trouble remembering names, when meeting someone, say their name, for example: “Nice to meet you, Jack!” This way you will memorize their name faster and better.

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• Shaking hands means so much in non-verbal communication that we should not underestimate it. There are 3 basic hand positions in a handshake: if you place your hand over someone else’s you demonstrate dominance. If your hand is under the other person’s hand, you show submission. So, in order to feel comfortable and make the other person feel the same way, make sure your hands stay in an equally vertical position during the handshake.

Do you use any of these tricks and how effective are they?